Planning a wedding can be a bit of a stressful situation. I constantly find my brides struggling with what they want to do and what their family says they should do. It can be a delicate situation. You don't want to upset Mom and Dad, but you want this day to be everything you ever imagined. I know it's always easier to skirt around the issue and cave to try and make everyone else happy. But, I have a news flash for you. The only people who need to be happy on this day are you and your fiance. Period. Here are my tips for making this day everything you imagined and more while keeping everyone else happy.
1. Be upfront...And do it soon. The longer you put your opinion on the back burner the harder it is to get what you want. Even if you aren't engaged, start having the conversation with family members now. Let them know what you envision so they too don't get involved in all the hoopla and forget that the day is about the two of you and what you want.
2. Be unique...You are unique and your wedding should really speak to who you are as a couple. If you aren't fancy people, don't have a sit down dinner because that's what Mom thinks you should do. Maybe try a heavy hors d'oeuvres/tapas style menu and opt for more cocktail tables than standard banquet tables. If you love Ross and Rachel from Friends then maybe you incorporate memorable Friends quotes or moments into your wedding. "He's her lobster" is a perfect example! (Friends geek over here if you can't tell...)
3. Be you...Take for example one of my brides. She's a free spirit and the standard wedding wedding to-dos aren't on the top of her priority list. She's skipping the bridal party, traditional gown, and bouquet and garter toss for something that speaks of her. Think flower crown, bohemian ivory dress, and loads of fun. The event wouldn't be true to who she is if she did the things she didn't want to.
Remember this, at the end of the day, your wedding is about one thing and one thing only...the person meeting you at the end of the aisle. Nothing else. If a parent is putting in a little too much opinion because they are consuming the expense and stressing you out, let it go. Let them have it. Put a smile on your face and accept the lack of control. But, never forget that the day is about the two of you forming your own family from now to eternity. Be happy and remember the real reason you are in this place, not for the flowers, or the cake, or the dress, but for the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
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